Welp, when I show up at my bf's place... he has things planned for us... He will say things like... "I have to work from x to x. Then I thought we would do a, b and c. Or we could do f instead of a, if you'd like. How does that sound to you?"
He has said things to me like, "I thought I'd take you to x place tonight." If I have a problem with that, I'm a big girl, I can speak up.
When he comes to my place, things are much more relaxed, as I don't live in a metropolitan type town. Not as much to do. But he loves it when I cook, we hang out on my deck, do stuff around my house... that is different and fun for him. But, if I plan stuff, he's okay with that, too. If he wants to do something, he'll speak up. He'll even ask me, "do you have anything planned for us today?" But in a way where he wants to know, not that he is expecting anything...
But he IS the type of guy who generally likes to have some kind of plan, even if the plan is to do 'nothing.' That's just him. As I am NOT a great planner of activities... I am most relieved when he does so. I'm GREAT at showing up and having fun. But I will also speak up if he overloads the day... which he has done before.
I have no problem deciding on dinners I'll make... sometimes I give him a choice... I got so nervous cooking for him a few times, I burned a dish once, I undercooked something once and it gave him food poisoning... (first time in my life that's ever happened...) I seem to have regained my culinary cool...
Dunno. He has some PA tendencies... I suppose we all do, or can... but we pretty much call one another on it...
THAT, CeMar, keeps me passionate... among other things. And they are generally subtle things... but he in NO WAY feels like a father... he CAN dote, and I can only tolerate so much of that. Just as he can only tolerate so much of me 'mothering' him.
