from what I've read (a ton) the H in MLC turns on his wife, blames her, is moody, negative, etc. I don't really know what he feels other than she makes him feel attractive. He told me he loved me, was romantic, had sex etc.
Not all MLCers blame--Sweetheart didn't. Sex may be better...at least at the beginning. Sex was great until the OW relationship went physical--Sweetheart said I'd know it had when he stopped doing stuff with me. Had he tried to be intimate with me while in an open sexual relationship with someone else, I would have said NO!
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so I'm just suppose to sit and wait and see if he comes back?
No...you do as said you are doing in the next line--rebuild your life.
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I guess I dont' understand how I'd "win" him back or how he returns by just biding my time when he's not around.
So which is it...are you biding your time, or rebuilding your life?
You don't 'win' him back either. You get a life. Get involved. You do not need a man to have fun. MAny people out there are single and not in a relationship...an dnot just twiddling there thumbs until a relationship falls out of the sky.
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When I told him I wasn't going to sit around and wait and him pick her up from jail and go on their merry way, he told me that he expect me to wait around...
That's probably what he's seen you doing. SHOW him you aren't going to wait around for him. Be busy when he's around...No, very moment he's home doesn't need to be spent with him. Go out. If you don't have anywhere to go...find something. I went to the library when I was No Contact from Sweetheart...and his imagination was racing...because he kept stopping by and I was gone.
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so you think I need to retract my threat? What? Tell him I'm ok and go on with your life?
No. Do nothing. No telling...you will show, it is means more.
