I have decided to tell him that I am going out of town. I will be gone for a week, and you are right, I wouldn't want him to go out of town and not tell me. He told me the other day that they don't have a refrigerator where he is living. My mom seems to think he might take ours if he knows I am going to be gone. I don't think he would do that, but at this point I wouldn't try to predict anything. We have a guest room that has furniture in it and he had asked for that when he was leaving. I told him no. I had that before we got married and he was not offering to leave me anything...so no. I guess he could try to take some of that, but at this point I don't even know if I care.
Maybe being in the house and around the dog will make him miss being here. Maybe me being gone will make him miss me. Lord knows I miss him.
When I see him at the counseling session tomorrow I am going to tell him to call before he comes over. I don't think it really bothers me that much now that I don't know where he lives, as long as he is telling me the truth about WHO he lives with. I don't know what good it would do me, and he is probably right...I would probably just end up "spying" on him.
My therapist told me not to file for divorce or sign papers unless I wanted too. She said she thinks that he is trying to push me to take that step, and then it will relieve some of his guilt. I am hoping that some of the things that he said about divorce were said out of anger. I say the same for you, let him do all the work and don't make it easy for him.
Well, that's all for now. I'll give an update tomorrow after the counseling session. Wish me luck!
