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Possibly, Wii! However, he is utterly miserable with the company he is in now, and I only see him (on average) every second weekend. That is not so good, either. This company is one of them Fortune 500 organizations (so, an opportunity of a lifetime where he can work up to retirement) and they have offices in the USA near our city of residence. So, we might be able to work it that I am in the USA one week and in Canada the next, and the kids can visit on weekends, as can my H, in the reverse. Okay, my head is spinning! Welcome to my life! Nothing is ever easy with us ... we have these brilliant opportunities, but seldom quite in the city we want (or, even the country we want), or there is some other dilemma involved. Ugh! I guess that can be said for anyone's life, huh! This arrangement would be just until my D14 graduates high school, and then we can sell our house and buy an apartment near wherever she decides to go to university (hopefully, where her brother will be going in two years).

I wish my friend in our country of birth were here now ... she is so good at brainstorming things with me. She is one of the reasons my H and I are still together. If it weren't for her wisdom (and those on the BB here too), I would've bailed out ages ago. Oh well, I guess I can bounce this around here on the forum. Just a little harder than having someone on the phone or face to face. I will be emailing my best friend though, so will still get some good feedback here and from her.

Thanks for posting, Wii ... you have good instincts and insights. So, I do understand what you're saying about the risk to our M, but (as stated above), we are already apart quite a lot, and this might make it easier to spend more time together. Also, my H has had 2 years before he started travelling, to figure out what he wants to do. Maybe, this will help him see things more objectively. I dunno! I am willing to try anything at this point.

Yes, I do want to go to Afghanistan! I would be a civilian with the Canadian Forces Personnel Support Agency, so not in uniform or going off to the frontlines (ACJ - very small risk, and I would have to first hear what they have to say in that regard. I sure don't want to make my children motherless). And, we have more than enough Tim Horton's around here, Mr. Dumpling (I have never seen so many in such a small city, actually).

And, NO, it doesn't get any f*ing easier (excuse muh French) . Just got to get my attitude adjusted so that I can think clearly and objectively about what we should do. In the end, it may be as simple as, he has a job, or he does not have a job. In his field, all the good jobs are in the USA with the salary to go with it, very few in the nearest large city, and none in the small city we live in. The bottom line is I don't want to take my D14 out of the school she's in now. She is very happy here, has friends, is in the Air Force cadets and loves that, and is very patriotic and does not want to leave Canada. I don't blame her or her brother ... they've had enough changes in their lives, that they need some stability right now as far as where they live and go to school. We parents, at this age, are really just incidental, and the source of money, and the odd bit of advice (rarely).

Anyway, I'm going on a bit now, so I'll just leave it there for now. If you've read the rant this far, thanks. I value all your opinions.