H came over tonight. He was pleasant to me and even made some small talk. I acknowledged him, but kept it short and walked away. I no longer feel like I have to go out of my way to be nice to him. He is a smuck right now and I am moving on. Until he gives me some remorse and respect I am done ....
I feel good about it. I have grown and Wow! feeling really strong!!! I no longer feel like I need him.
I know he doesn't like himself so how could he love anyone.
You are so right! I have realized that no one's opinion of Ow has changed. They don't like her and she is a loser. This just reinforces to me that I am a better person than her and that H has lost his mind!
Plus I have also realized that my H doesn't like himself and has a poor self-image. Otherwise he wouldn't be trying so hard to make me look bad.
Geez, I can almost sense what happened. It sounds like my H. He actually said to me during the time we were trying to work on our M b/4 he filed that "He hated who he had become" and gee I wonder why.....b/c of the OW. He actually said to me that basically people are telling him at work that the fact that he is having an affair (if he was having one says H) would be understandable because I am now his Estranged wife and he my Estranged H....NO just STRANGE!
I am glad that you are feeling strong. It is important!!!!
Question....I have always wondered how anyone can really think highly of themselves when they go after someone else's H or W. Just remember that it is not just your H who has lost his mind and thinks lowly of himself. It is ALSO THE OW!!
Hi by the way!!
Me:33; Ring on 5/17/97 H:33; Ring off 5/31/07 Together:13years Married: 10 ("celebrated" 10th after he moved out Bomb Dropped: New Year's Eve '07 Moved out: 5/4/07 Filed: 3 weeks later S: 3 D&S(twins):1
Ok, I realize that really was not a question that I added on at the end. More like a statement of how delusional people can be when they think that what they need is someone elses spouse, or someone who is WILLING to come between a couple and their M. UGH!
If I was a woman put into the sitch to choose...a married man or nothing. I would choose nothing each time (and then call his wife)too much heartache and I wouldn't want to be any part of that. I like myself too much! Just remember that you are someone who obviously likes themselves too and that your H is probably feeling really low and really guilty.
Me:33; Ring on 5/17/97 H:33; Ring off 5/31/07 Together:13years Married: 10 ("celebrated" 10th after he moved out Bomb Dropped: New Year's Eve '07 Moved out: 5/4/07 Filed: 3 weeks later S: 3 D&S(twins):1
You are so right about that. Ow's have low-self image too.
The thing is , I think Ow and WAS/MLC are so good at re-writing history and living in a fantasy world that they convince themselves that what they have together isn't wrong and isn't an A. They were "just friends" and in their minds there was nothing wrong with that. This is what my H believes in his WARPED mind. MLC's don't have morals or values while on their journey. Ow are just plain trashy which explains why they don't have any morals.
Ow are just plain trashy which explains why they don't have any morals.
This made me chuckle so hard that I actually started choking on my Everlasting Gobstopper! Probably a sign that I shouldn't be eating one in the first place.
I was reading your post and I think that we are going to have to be D from our H's BEFORE they will begin to look at themselves-----unfortunately It's going to take a D from us (in their minds the one who has caused them unhappiness) in order for them to stop running!
I know this is true in my sitch anyway.
** H told d7 last night that he and Ow are going to get a puppy! Ugh....... Isn't that special. At first I got upset b/c it seemed like another reminder that they are planning a future together. Then I stopped myself and said maybe their R is getting boring and they need something else to make them happy.
Whatever the reason for it, I am done as I told you last night. H isn't worth my time right now. He isn't capable of giving me what I need and treating me with the respect I deserve.
Heeeee Heeeeee 
It's going to take a D from us (in their minds the one who has caused them unhappiness) in order for them to stop running! 
Isn't that special. At first I got upset b/c it seemed like another reminder that they are planning a future together. Then I stopped myself and said maybe their R is getting boring and they need something else to make them happy.