coping with abstinence???

[SallyM]

Lin, you are right, of course. I'm just flirting with the idea of flirting, if that makes sense. not ready to dive right into a relationship right now. but nor am I honestly ready to face 2 years (or more) of celibacy. its not even a, "he's getting some, why can't I" thing. its just, my god, I can't imagine going that long. I'm dying after the short time its been...which I suppose is short, but feels like an eternity.

notice I have not done anything...yet. and yes, I originally came here because I had hoped things were salvagable. but I'm beginning to realize how unlikely that is in my case, so hoping for the next best thing...figuring out how to move on, and for me, that means testing the idea of someone else in my future, even if its not mr right, even if its just mr right now. (no, not looking for a one night stand, that probably sounds like I am).

so the scenerio you went thru, where you concentrated on yourself and your kids, and in 2 years your h came back, and you were able to reconcile, is so wonderful. but I wonder if I could do the same. I would love us to reconcile, but if I really thought it wasn't possible, I don't think its mutually exclusive for me to concentrate on myself and my children, and still find some comfort in someone else.

or maybe I'll grow used to the lack of sex/touch. who knows. right now it is driving me crazy.