Being Me, I can't imagine how your M can grpw and become healthy again if you are both in different cities! IMHO (which is off the cuff at this moment)it's the kiss of death. Maybe sit down with H and discuss this in terms of how it will effect your M as well as his career. There's alot at stake here. This may be the issue that pushes your M either way. Tough decision to make. It doesn't get any easier, does it! Did I read you want to go to Afghanistan? WTH, isn't there a Tim Horton's near you, be independent there!
