Anyway, I've kind of got the opposite deal with the guy I'm dating. Instead of "What do you want...?", I'm getting "We will...". Okay, I know you guys didn't think the pubic hair thing was territorial but you gotta give it up on the "We will...", right? I'm kind of annoyed. I feel it's rather presumptuous and/or cavalier.
"... and the lady will have the fish ....."
I hate to even throw my cold water after you've apparently come to terms with this ... but ....
I'm no Andrea Dworkin, but this would raise the hackles on my neck in about 2 nanoseconds. *Unless* you asked him to set something up for the both of you, or that was the tacit arrangement for your dates .... "We will go to the circus" is tantamount to ordering your date's dinner. Didn't that (for good reason) go out with the dinosaurs?
I don't care if he has the most intimate understanding of your taste of any man ever .... presenting your plans as a fait accompli like that *does* seem pretty presumptuous. He ain't your daddy.
It's all about semantics, really (and I do tend to be sensitive to same). If he'd said, "Do you want to go to the circus" or "I thought we might go to the circus" or even "Let's go to the circus" ... no probs.
"We will" seems to imply that he is arrogating to himself power over you to which he is not entitled. My gut (possibly over)reaction would have been to snatch it back.
"Show me a completely smooth operation and I'll show you someone who's covering mistakes. Real boats rock." -- Frank Herbert
