Okay, I think I lost ya somewhere along the way. I'm not sure what you mean by putting sex last on the agenda of doing things for H. In my case, it doesn't make the list at all since we have not been intimate in eleven years. Seems almost funny that I would even be worried about it now, doesn't it? But, when I suggested to him that IF we stayd together, it COULD possibly be without ever having sex again. Then.....he informs me that we will NOT live by the "buddy-buddy" system! (That was all in a previous thread....I think) I may have forgotten to put that in...can't remember. I just thought it was all ironic that we have not had sex in over a decade but when he finds out that there is OM in the picture, then he tells me all that. But, guess I'm getting away from our subject.
But, yeah, I agree that men and women are totally different in their feelings throughout the day with how receptive they are toward sex that night. Well, maybe I should just speak from my experience with my own and what I've heard other women say. I think it is just the differences in the gender, but I don't know. It's like if we W know the kids may hear us having sex....it makes us nervous and start shuting down, whereas most H can just ignore it...lol. I think our "mood swings" certainly affect us. Our physical condition....everything. You poor men, it's a wonder you ever get any sex!
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
