Interesting description of your ex-H Corri. My ex-H had plenty of preferences, I was just supposed to be the one who would take the steps to execute HIS preferences. That doesn't work too well either.
I recognized myself of late in your description of your ex-H. I have been passive to the nth degree in this R lately (the agression factor isn't there though). I have been loathe to step up the plate. My H has made a few "attempts" - occasionally he comments that he "looks forward" to resuming our physical R (WTF??? He doesn't touch me or follow up on this in any way. I guess he wasn't listening the million times I said - just grab me and..... I KNOW the baby is always there. I understand he is in our bed 1/2way through the night every night but guess what - if H went to bed with ME when the baby first goes down we could easily "resume"). Until H leads I can't follow but I acknowledge that haven't been someone that looks easy to lead lately. My point? Each person needs to own their part of the R. If you don't care what you eat or where - fine but sometimes you need to take the responsibility anyway. If the circus sounds fun - go. If you are morally opposed to circuses - say so. I guess I will be needing to step up my end of things.
