I will not be there when she gets it. I will be dropping the kids off at daycare Friday morning because I'm leaving for Seattle at 9:00 a.m. She will pick them up after work, along with their stuff and her mail. I'm afraid that she will open it at home with OM there though. I'm hoping that she will find it without him around and put it aside and open it later. It will be likely that I will never know how she received it, and whether or not she attaches it to her keychain. I don't think she will even mention it, and if she does in the form of a thank you, I think that is a green light for the talk and I will present it at that moment.
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And if she runs back to the castle, you stay at your picnic. I know you know that. If nothing else, this is an info-gathering mission. It's a search for solutions. You'll learn something one way or another.
Absolutely!
chicki,
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Is receiving gifts one of her LL?
I think it is a secondary LL (however, I think it definitely ranks as a strong #2), but it has to be done with careful thought (as I recently explained I have come to realize). I think romantic and very thoughtful gifts, just for the sake of giving them because I love her (i.e. not just for special occasions), is important to her. I think Words of Affirmation is #1 for her (this includes active listening and validating, providing support, showing appreciation, and giving compliments).
