Henrik, sorry about your sitch. First you did not do anything "wrong" or "make her to do this". I am not saying there are no issues in your marraige however having an affair is a choice the spouse makes to deal with the issues as opposed to identifying the issues and working with you to see how to fix them. So do not blame yourself for the affair. Listen to morgan and Steel_box as believe me the more details you know and the more you snoop, the worse you feel. Focus on taking care of you right now as hard as that may be and don't do anything rash as right now you are probably emotional as this just happened. Get DR/do reading and try not to plead, cry, etc etc as it does push them further away.
