Mixed signals - catfan's continual saga part???

[Dom R]

She read my requested changes to the agreement as me being greedy and not having changed at all because she read it as me not wanting to support our family.

This is what they ALL say. It's standard script.
FYI, mine is doing it too, at this very moment. It's all part of manipulating you to get what they want.
She actually used the line, "you just want to hurt me, and you're hurting our children because of it!"

Which is total bull... she has sufficient money, if she just decides to stop spending hundreds of dollars on her own entertainments, etc. She wants to have the same standard of living that she would if we were married... without remaining married. I'm betting yours is shooting for the same thing.


if you want to avoid direct conflict with her, then say, well, I just want whats fair for both of us. but I dont want to fight with you about it. lets just let lawyers fight it out.

Which of course, she will protect greatly (blah blah too much money blah blah), but the real reason is because she believes that she can manipulate you into getting what she wants, whereas she cant do that to your lawyer.

You must not give her settlement terms she wants, just to avoid angering her, in vain hopes that it will make your reconciliation easier. it wont. Giving her more money, just makes her life without you easier, and makes it more likely for her to stay away.


"you being greedy"? What about HER being greedy? Doesnt she have a job? (if not, she should GET a job! welcome to the real world!)

Any time she accuses you of something, immediately try to remember, "does this apply just as equally to her?"

bottom line: your children need food, clothing, and shelter. Everything above that, is her being greedy.