Thanks Dom R, unsolicited advice is always welcome! I am scared to hope and scared not to and I so hope you are right. I honestly don't know whether I believe him about not being intimate with OW but I can not figure out why he would wake me up to tell me if it was more lies. I am trying to be a good friend right now as you recommend and an attractive one! Today was the first day in weeks, he called me unsolicited just to tell me something not urgent or pressing. The first time I was in a meeting so missed the call but saw it on my missed calls and then a hour later he called again. I was totally cool, friendly etc. and didn't try to keep him on the phone or anything. It felt so good to hear from him during the day though. I pray you are right and his heart is open a crack so I will keep doing what I am doing in case I can widen it to a big hole! And yes I do hope he misses me a tiny bit at least when I am away as I know I miss him even when we are in the same room right now.