My concern is that she will see the beautiful charm as me trying to "buy" her affection and love back. Hopefully she will see the symbolism behind it and appreciate the thought and sincerity that it demonstrates, which will hopefully dissolve any thoughts that I'm buying her love. I've always gotten her very nice things in the past thinking that high quality and high priced gifts were the way to go instead of buying things that she would really enjoy/appreciate and see as a reflection of my understanding of what is important to her. I don't believe that she cares so much for the price of the gift anymore. For example, on our anniversary trip to Vegas that I surprised her with last year, I gave her a beautiful diamond necklace and diamond earrings to match. The earrings were 5 grand alone, which I of course never told her and still don't think she knows. I then tried to get her to go out and shop for a dress to match them and to go out for dinner in that night. Well, she declined and said she didn't want to do that. After the separation, I found out from W's stepmom that W told her that she would've rather had a ring than the earrings. I was so repulsed by that comment when I heard about it, but in reflection I see that I was getting her what I thought would be nice, rather than thinking about what she would like and appreciate. It wasn't about the quality of the gift, it was about knowing what she would like. I'm not saying that her saying what she said to her stepmom was right, but it told me alot about gift giving to my W.
Thanks again -- I don't know if she'll "love it," -- I just hope that she'll appreciate and respect the thought behind it (the beauty is just icing on the cake). If she is irritated with me for it, I'm going to be so bummed... I'm a little afraid this show of pursuing will chase her right back into the castle.
