I have to agree with morgan. If you want to try and make it work with your W. Forget about the details for now. Don't ask, don't snoop, and as hard as it is try to put it to the side and out of your head. I know it seems impossible. It is hard but you can do it.As far as morgan's virtual mosaic, I almost had a real one. I have more information than I want, and it wasn't until I was able to quit obsessing over it that things started to get better for me.

You need to find something else to occupy your mind, a hobby, exercise, anything that you can do to put it aside. Also, the DB/DR books and a counselor/therapist like morgan said.

Stay strong, it will get better.

Good luck

M 39, W 35
D7, S5
Friends 18+ Together 11+
Married 8
ILYBINILWY 4/7/07 - A BOMB 4/29/07
Seperated 5/16/07 - D Filed
She Moved out 7/1
D Busted 6/15/08