Dom I am fairly certain her stand has a lot more to do with a fear that we'd return to our old marriage and the things she didn't like. I don't think she's actively trying to dangle enticements but I do think a lower motivation for her being nice is to keep the peace and not be the "bad guy". I am fairly convinced that she really doesn't want a divorce. She's admitted several times now that she would like to fall back in love with me. But fear it seems is preventer her along with pride. She's one to stick to her decisions, she's not a wishy-washy decision maker. I also think she still wants to prove to herself she can live on her own and be responsible for herself. Along with wanting to experience being on her own. We married right after she graduated so she's never been on her own.
So if I want this to work I have to be extra careful about everything I do now. She read my requested changes to the agreement as me being greedy and not having changed at all because she read it as me not wanting to support our family. So I am in a very delicate position right now. No WE are in a very delicate position right now.
Last edited by catfan; 07/31/0705:49 PM.
If we really want to love, we must learn how to forgive. - Mother Theresa
