HELLLLLLLLLLP,,,need advice asap!

[Dom R]

Mr. Hindsight:
I read back in your thread a bit, to see if i had any advice to offer on one of the questions you asked recently.. and then I came across things like,

Before we were married she was usually the one to threaten to walk out, and I would always take her back as we tried to work on our R. Since we have been married however, she has become more and more naggy and untrusting of my motives as I have slowly distanced myself from her and her accusations.

and also, that she had already been divorced before... and she's only in her mid-twenties?


You're 10 years apart.. she is basically a child, both compared to your age, and how she is acting. she has demonstrated both by her divorcing her first husband, and also in how she has approached your marriage, that she is incredibly NOT suited to marriage.
(I dont believe all the "controlling" claims. It was most likely more a case of, She wanted to do whatever she wanted, her husband complained about it, so eventually she divorced him)


I'm sorry to say this, but since it seems no-one else has yet:
People sometimes say that not all marriages should be saved. I know that you love her.. but it seems like your marriage is one of them. You've only been married a year, and there are no children. In some ways, an "annulment" sounds almost appropriate. i dont think she was ever truely committed to you in marriage.



Unless you are an incredibly strong biblical marriage believer... why would you want to stay in this marriage? And even if you are.. she doesnt sound like a believer. by the words of St. Paul, you can let the unbeliever go, and be free of your mismatched marriage.
Let her go. completely. Let her do the divorce. Don't chase after her one bit.

If she decides to grow up and come back... accept her back if you choose. Otherwise.. take some time, heal yourself, and after a year or two, find a real wife for yourself. (an adult, not a child!)