Nikki, so sorry to hear that you are still going thru these things even months after he moved back in.
ST, does have a fairly good point about kicking him out of the house. I kicked mine out because of something I found that he wrote about this OW. Kicking him out only should be done if you are fairly certain that you do want him out. I thought I did at the time but it was before I found this site and learned about DB'ing. At least with them around , it does allow you to have more contact with them when they are around all the time as now, I feel like we are strangers when I see him. He never would have left on his own and I made it all that much more easier for him but I don't know if I could have been strong enough to handle him going out or staying out and me not knowing what is going on.
As far as alimony, the main factor is if he makes alot more money than you do. I asked a L about that and said that I wouldn't get a thing since we both make the same amount. Since your 401K are the same too then that shouldn't be touched since you both would be entitled to half of the other's.
Me: 41 H: 39 D: 6 S: 4 M-14 T-16 first bomb: 5-12-07 (M dead doesn't really want to work things out.) second bomb: 6-4-2007 (found note he wrote about wanting desperately to be with OW and would have to give up everything) Kelley
