When you returned did you do so on your own w/out talking it out first w/ your wife? My H hs been telling our girls for the past few months he wants to come home, but that mommy does not want him to. At first I said yes and then I got scared he was not doing it for the right reasons & I told him he should wait a little longer.
Many months ago when he had his first kinda break down & our first R talk (he initaed) he said he always thought about coming back but that he knew I would not take him back. That was when I first noticed signs of remorse. I told him he si still in love w/ her/OW & he says not completely?? WTH? I know he is. He is still living w/ her. Some of these men/husbands who have cheated on these boards make it sound too difficult to leave the OW. It does not sound like that was your case? Were you not in love w/ OW? If he returns still loving her how long can it take to get over her?
