Look who’s doing all the complaining on this thread about not getting feedback – the women. I think it is important for women to hear what a man wants to do because it is reassuring to her that he is concerned about her. But the is just the woman’s perspective. Just because a man says he doesn’t care what they do doesn’t mean h doesn’t car. In fact, he cares so much that he is will to let her do what she wants, thinking that he is “sacrificing” for her pleasure. As is evident here, that is not the message received by the woman.
When men are bonded with one another, they will often do the same thing and allow one person’s ideas to set the pace for the group. The next outing someone else’s ideas might be followed. But if there is not a comfortable bond, men will not generally follow what some “stranger” asks. So ladies, be sure you know what it is you are complaining about. If you get to the point that your H says he doesn’t want to follow your choices, that he wants to do what he wants to do and are you coming or not, you might have someone who is leading, or you might have someone who has decided the only way to make himself happy is to just go it alone.
