Note to cac: if I balk, push a little more. You might not believe it, but I think that's what I want (at least some of the time.)
And herein lies one of the basic problems of M/F relationships. Somehow, we men are supposed to know when that "some of the time" is. If we ask, we are placating. If we push through the objections, it may very well be what you want. Except when it isn't. Then we annoy you or are too controlling.
I think, at that point, you're supposed to just accept that she'll be annoyed sometimes and not take it personally. Stay in a good mood anyway, maybe stop pushing, maybe start teasing, but never act like her annoyance or complaining hurts your feelings. Because they shouldn't... her being annoyed isn't a judgement of you as a person, it's just the way she's feeling.
And if you're constantly trying to figure out how to keep her happy, as if she's a capricious tyrant that you're trying to please, you're already going down the wrong track and she won't be happy and (more to the point) neither will you.
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I can get a manual for how my computer or TV works. I need a manual for how my wife works.
I think I've found one here, but it's kind of long. She is, after all, a lot more complicated than a computer or a TV. Your right brain is a lot better equipped to cope with her than your left brain, if you can fire it up and start using it properly. Most of the time
a fine and enviable madness, this delusion that all questions have answers, and nothing is beyond the reach of a strong left arm.
