Saturday H came over to pick up his motorcycle & Iguess she drove his truck back. He did not come in but as I came out to the garage while I was doing laundry he gave me the most evil look. I just kept doing what I was doing and then went right back in the house. He closed the garage and left to my surprise I thought he was goign to take the girls!
He came over early sunday morning D10 & I were still in bed and the other two were running around the house. Before he left ( I was still in bed)he told me that the suggest I start finding me another health insurance b/c he was taking me off come Monday that he was no longer paying for mine. I had the covers over me & just said -ok. I was not up to fighting which is what he expected from me.
As dinner time came around I left H a voice message (knowing he would prolly bring them late) to let me know if I was feeding them or if he was giving them dinner. He did not return the call and by now it was the girls bedtime so I trashed the little left overs. He came in & oddly enough he seemed somewhat scared? Then tells me they did not want to eat & they wanted to eat here. Calmly I told him thats is why I left him the message now I had to see what to feed them. Did he expect a fight? Later the girls told me OW came w/ them (H aske her if she wanted to come) he has never brought her by. My mom says this is why he prolly brought her b/c he expected me to fight w/ him b/c he knew he did wrong in not feeding them & my mom wants me to document stuff like this. Not only was he late but he did not feed them either, I could of made a big fuss about it but I didn't.
So later that evening (feeling guilty again) I emailed him to his work email. Why do we LBSr's r the ones to feel guilty for standing our ground & making boundaries. Obviously cheaters have no boundaries thats why they can cheat their lives away. I need to be the R parent her dont I?
Anyhow, I wrote him that I understand the financial burden he is in & that at one time I was willing to let him come home & I would help as much I could w/ the bills. BUt that if that were to happen we would need to learn to love each other again. I reminded him that love is a choice. I agreed that we both had failed when it came to $. That I needed to know just exactly what he wanted from me.
Last night before I went to bed I noticed I had a missed call from him. He had called around 8pm and here it was two hours later. I texted him (knowing it was late & Ow was prolly home by now from school so he would not call back)I wrote that I had just now noticed he had called & that if it was urgent he can call back but it was late & if not I would talk to him tomorrow & to have a good night. H hardly ever calls anymore b/c we usually talk thru IM while at work everyday.
GD, I dont know until prolly last minute if I will go to Orlando b/c mu check will be smaller than anticipated ,but I will try. I only live two hours away!
