indy, don't put too much pressure on yourself. I remember how I felt when I was DBing the first few months. I felt like anything I said or did could destroy the rest of my life. (Do you remember the movie "Butterfly Effect"? It was that kind of feeling.) Please don't put this pressure on yourself. No one knows what the best response is to any statement or situation and you have to be true to yourself.
The only important thing is to give them space and work on helping yourself survive this ordeal.
Me45 H45 D13 S10 together-23 years married-21 years MLC Divorced 10/3/07 Married to a wonderful new man.
