I (just like the rest of you) HATE it when I ask my husband "so what wouldy you like for dinner?" and I get..."I don't care". Often I'll even go so far as to give him two choices...and he still will not pick one. It is irritating to the nth degree.
I totally understand that it can feel annoying. BUT you didn't mention if he complains when you make the choice. If he doesn't complain, then at least he is not Passive-aggressive like my XH and possibly Corri's. I don't mean to downplay the annoyingness of it but it is a different issue.
Also I have to plead guilty for that behavior AT TIMES. My XH used to complain if I did not have an opinion on what to do or what to eat at ALL times. There are just times where I really don't care. And in those times I HAPPILY accept whatever someone else chooses.
Oddly enough in those situations where my XH would INSIST that I choose, at least 75% of the time he would disagree and then choose something else. THAT was annoying! (By the way he did start to see that through counseling and has since apologized for that behavior. Part of what drove that behavior was a WANT to be led by others.)
My H will NOW plan dates for us, and get everything arranged too. If we go out to dinner on a whim...he'll voice a preference if he has one...if I offer choices for dinner, he chooses. I have to admit, it really helps.
And if you just accept his choice, then it shows you are not PA either. That has to be a plus for your marriage!!!
Good for him to be willing to change and good for you for making that change easy.
But what is happiness except the simple harmony between a man and the life he leads? ~Albert Camus
