What about if you don't know what you want to do, but you want to do something and you're looking for the other person to come up with something that you'll enjoy without having to go to the effort of figuring out just what you would enjoy?
I do this. I tend to make pretty much all of the decisions about what we're having for dinner, for example, and once in a while I ask cac because I just don't want to think about it or make the decision myself. More often than not, he says "I don't know" or "I don't care" or "whatever you want."
Also, once in a while, he'll have a suggestion about something to do during the weekend, and I've found that I actually like it when he asserts himself a bit. Of course, if he knew it was something I hated to do then it wouldn't go over too well.
What I'm realizing is that I do like it when he is "in charge." I didn't used to like it when I was much younger because of FOO reasons (I believed that my father controlled my mother and didn't want a man controlling me.) But as I've gotten older, and now after reading Corri's post, I'm realizing that cac could stand to assert himself some more, not only for me, but for himself!
Note to cac: if I balk, push a little more. You might not believe it, but I think that's what I want (at least some of the time.)
