Sometimes my answer to "what would you like to do" is "hang around here, play on the computer, talk, whip up something to eat at home, and watch some TV". Of course I don't put it precisely like that. Actually I don't put it at all like that, it comes out more like "I dunno". Which is pretty damn passive-aggressive now that I see it in black and white. But really, she only asks the question when there's not a chance in hell she'd like that particular answer. Which means it's time for a little give and take, not holding back and grudgingly going along with anything. Maybe next weekend I'll have a chance to try that out.

Yeah, sounds like a bit of PA to me. There's no rule that says you BOTH cannot be Passive aggressive! In fact I could see how that could complicate things even MORE. BUT here's the key, not being PA does help you be happier, I think. It seems the more I watch people the more it seems easier to figure out the PA behavior appears to make people more unhappy. So the good thing is that at least by stopping your own PA behavior YOU will feel better.



But what is happiness except the simple harmony between a man and the life he leads? ~Albert Camus