What about if you don't know what you want to do, but you want to do [i]something and you're looking for the other person to come up with something that you'll enjoy without having to go to the effort of figuring out just what you would enjoy?

Is that passive-agressive or just lazy? Because we've both been known to do the "I'm not happy right now, and if you really loved me, you'd come up with something that would make me really have fun and be happy" thing.

Sometimes my answer to "what would you like to do" is "hang around here, play on the computer, talk, whip up something to eat at home, and watch some TV". Of course I don't put it precisely like that. Actually I don't put it at all like that, it comes out more like "I dunno". Which is pretty damn passive-aggressive now that I see it in black and white. But really, she only asks the question when there's not a chance in hell she'd like that particular answer. Which means it's time for a little give and take, not holding back and grudgingly going along with anything. Maybe next weekend I'll have a chance to try that out.

Last edited by Crazy Eddie; 07/31/07 02:07 PM.
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