I would sometimes ask my X this question simply because he was so oppositional and anhedonic that I knew if I suggested something it would usually be rejected so it just seemed easier to determine if there was actually ANYTHING he might want to do.
I'm assuming that what you would have preferred would have been something along the lines of him saying "I'm thinking I'd like to go out for Thai and see the new Simpsons movie. Care to join me?" Which would give you the option of saying "Thai sounds great but I'd rather see Hairspray. How 'bout we have dinner split up for the movies and then make out in the car like teenagers in the movie parking lot?"
Because I'm easy-going, I've been kind of working on thinking more about my preferences along the lines of I think it would be fun to see the Simpsons with you and I think it would be fun to see Hairspray with you but I would prefer Hairspray. Otherwise, I'm always just always saying "Sure, why not?" For instance, when one date asked me which restaurant I'd prefer, I actually said "If I had a preference I'd state it but I don't so you pick." because I wanted to make it clear that I wasn't being spineless just honestly easy-to-please. I'm working on being more that way sexually too.
Anyway, I've kind of got the opposite deal with the guy I'm dating. Instead of "What do you want...?", I'm getting "We will...". Okay, I know you guys didn't think the pubic hair thing was territorial but you gotta give it up on the "We will...", right? I'm kind of annoyed. I feel it's rather presumptuous and/or cavalier.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
