I have discovered that every time I open my heart and pour my feelings out I am the one that is hurt again. I have done this at times when she was so far down in the dumps and I was sure she would react. We have had some nice moments here she crys, hugs me and even tells me she is still in love with me. But it seems me making it clear that I'm still waiting with open arms empowers her and leaves me hurt all over again.
I know this was bad DBing, but the woman of my dreams was hurting and I do lover her. It was and is a hard lesson to learn. I hope i have learned that I need to wait for her.
I sent her the final mediation document letter and included the following tect:
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one comment about a change and then....
Otherwise it is fine. Thanks for working together on this and not making it worse than it had to be. I hope this finalized document helps you get closer to where you want to be.
If you ever need anything (not just money) but help, a shoulder to cry on, a person to listen to good news, help carrying furniture :)or anything else in the world – I will “always” be there for you. ____________________________________________________________
