I know that I will have my girls 40% of the time, but, I hate the thought of coming home to an empty house. I built this house for my family and now I will be living in it alone most of the time. I will probably stay in the house for a year or two but it might be hard on me - we will see.
Scott....we sound alike. My comment was that I just can't conceive of not being around to pour milk on S6's Cinnamon French Toast cereal....or D4 calling for me to help her in the BR...or those goodnight kisses from both of them. I've said the same thing...I planted my W's favorite trees on the property..built the house for US...to make a family......
Need vs. preference. That stuff is the stuff we say immediately post-bomb. Their thinking is NOT in the same place ours is, so, we cause anxiety and pain by focusing on it. You PREFER to be with your W (and so do I), but, Scott, you WILL find life again. It will be different and perhaps not the way we had planned and perhsps even cause twinges of pain at times. We....hey....we have no control over how they are driving this. We need to stop needing them.
I empathize with you.
Frank
Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
