I was glad to see that you are still keeping tabs on me.... I did go over to your thread and was going to give you my .02$, then I remembered your thread was in piecing and I did not want to muck the waters. I have no idea what reconciling is like.....
Thanks for all the kind words....
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Second, you are brilliant to keep ALL the legal dirty "unpleasant reality" the job for the lawyers.
This is a learning experience for me. I at times find it funny seeing how the two L's are handling the two sides of this D. My W and her L are trying to push this through as soon as possible, while my L and I are trying to string it along without making it look like we are stringing it along. I also do not mind talking D with my W, but, when I want to end the convo I just tell her it is in the L's hands and it all will be worked out.
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how'd the custody go 40% your way? If it's a legitmate schedule diff, fine. But isn't she a nurse with weird hours/ and is she the one who is "in love" with the ER doctor?
My W has the ability to work three 12hr shifts a week while I have our girls. I on the other hand work Monday threw Friday, some weekends and travel on occasion. Throw in the fact that she has basically been a SAHM(primary care giver). I have no chance of getting my girls the majority of the time. I did get her to agree to joint custody with a parenting plan. I will see my girls Tuesday evenings, and then have them Thursday evening threw early Saturday Morning, along with every other weekend. Since I work for a bank I get a lot of minor holidays off, so I will be getting my girls those days also. My L actually told me this was extremely fair because if we fought for more I could end up with less time then this.
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Your wife's concerns about money are telling. She thought the ER doc had SO MUCH money, what's a few child support payments? Hmmmmmm, too bad.
To bad for her is right. I will fight for what I feel is fair and if she does not like that then well....like you said too bad. As for the OM, according to his W he has no money. He has student loans out of the...well you know... and has no savings. Now he is going to be paying CS and Alimony, there is not going to be much left over for taking my W out.
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Geez, if I ever felt like going back to divorce law, oooooh, groooossss, I don't think I can....BUT IF I DID, I'd like to represent a few guys with MLC and or cheating wives just to get to talk without them interupting. Gotta be worth something.
With your first hand knowledge and possibly being a D L for MLC/cheaters you could write a pretty good book that most of us on this site would buy.
Good for you talking sense into that woman. My W is not willing to listen to anyone at this point. She is to wrapped up in the OM to listen to truth.
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BACK TO EARTH, how is the A going with the OM as far as you know?
I honestly have no idea. Based off of her actions I would say that the A is still going on, but again I really do not know. If it is, and I think it is, at least she is no longer rubbing it in my face.
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Does your wife know now that since the RICH DOCTOR (aren't they ALL rich and fllled with spare time for romance?) isn't all that rich, and or all that free with his time, that all might not be well in paradise?
Who knows....She thinks he is such a great guy. Do great guys abandon their W and kids? Do great guys flirt with married woman and then have A's with them? Not really a great guy is he.
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Other than money stuff, has she noticed your GAL and changes? Keep them up.
Actually, she has noticed. She told me she sees it as me moving on and enjoying life on my own. She also said that she could tell that I am enjoying myself now since I do not have to deal with her garbage anymore. I answered her with: I would prefer enjoying these things with you, since you do not want to be apart of me I am now doing all the things that I enjoy.
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I hate women who marry docs they didn't put through med school. Boy let me tell you, when the wives sit around talking about how hard internship and residency was....and your wife peeps up about meeting him AT WORK and confirms every doctor's First wife's fears.....she'll be as welcome as a pregnant nun...
Pregnant nun...Hehe.... I can understand your loathing of a woman like my W. A pretty nurse willing to destroy her family so that she can try and live out some fantasy of hers with a married Doc. I can easily see how this would not go over well with the other W's.
Is she going to have any friends? She has ran away from most of her current friends because she doesn't want to hear that she is wrong and her possible new circle of friends are going to dislike her for being a home wrecker...ouch...
