EAA, Thank you for the breakdown! This really is a good way of explaining/looking at things. I think I'll have to dig out my map of New Orleans (one place W and I love, but have never been able to go togther since Hurricane and our schedules). I find having little 'reminders' like that keeps my focus. Last night I found myself lonely and thinking about the what ifs. Talk about yor thoughts getting better of you. It's those times I so badly want to call and say hi. I battle the indecision b/c the begging/crying/pleading really lasted the night of the bomb and then the next day when I got W to agree to 30 day separation. I immediately went into fix it mode and found DR book and this site within days. So, my 180 from what got me here would be to pay more attention to W. Actively be involved with her. She said I would act as if she wer enot even there sometimes. After the bomb she says she needs space. Hasn't said this lately, but I beleive that is b/c I have given it to her pretty well. I'm thinking of bringing up an R talk, not too in depth. Just to let he know I want to call every day, but understand she needs space. I want to be sure she knows that I miss her so much everyday we are apart. Anyone have thoughts on whether this good or bad. Or perhaps a better way to convey this? Thanks for the help,
Me 32 WAW 30 D Bomb 7/9 Separated 7/15 Reiterated bomb 8/12 PA 8/21 http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...rue#Post1198643
