Lightbulb moment for me. My H could have been yours with some subtle differences. Very interesting seeing the dynamics written down.
I rarely ask what my H would like for dinner because the answer is always "anything" instant irritation guaranteed LOL.
Cemar if you were like this in your 1st M and have continued this in your 2nd changing your own attitude may well help you get where you want to be.
Actually Corri I think you've hit the nail bang on the head here.If the attitude to sex is present in other aspects of Cemars personality the ME ME ME that comes across here is a big part of the problem.
You've really given ME food for thought here Corri it may not help Cemar but it has helped me so thanks.
