NikkiB #18

[S.T. _I Made It!]

I'm not really sure what I would do on the MC. I guess you could tell him that your wanting to go to MC to help you too. Your also struggling. Maybe ask, if he would like to go together next time that you'd be okay with him going alone this week if it is that important to him.

I am glad that your MC is solution based. This actually happened with me. When H finally told me he wanted D, I said, well if this is what you really want than we have to go to C. He said okay, and eventually when I set it up he wanted to go alone first. Well, that's the only time he went, and actually, I was glad. in the time of our sitch I believed it to be detrimental for my H to go to a C. I hadn't yet read the DR book and I believe the biggest power is thru ourselves, not thru a C who usually just tries to figure out the past and not necessarily focused on saving the M.

If you have him go first, I would talk to her again. Tell her that you have a feeling he has something to confide in her but that you want her to know that he has shown many changes that you are certain he is not done with the M. You know he is still struggling, but you can see that with help, your M can definitely be saved because of his actions in the last 3 months (or however long it's been since he came back. I guess I just want to protect you because your C had said no more session for you guys since you both didn't want the same things and there wasn't any purpose going forward. I really don't think it's going to be about H wanting to end it again, but I think it's just something he's feeling guilty from or his "addiction" to her, or his depression.

Maybe if you don't go this thursday, it will at least give you a little relief and less anxiety?

Very glad to hear H wanting to go to dad's bday! that's really cool!