You sound like me...I tend to over analyze and I tend to talk to long for my H...he says I beat a dead horse when really I am just trying to clarify my statements so there are no misunederstandings....
I have finally had to come to the point that he might not understand me but if it isn't a life or death issue...or won't matter a week from now....then I MUST LET IT GO!
We also established the ground rule that if one wants to stop the conversation we will stop...but agree to talk at a later time when both feel more comfortable...sometimes we find we don't need to...sometimes one of us still needs to...
