That had to be a crazy revelation for you. Did wake up one day and your W had your nuts in a jar on the night stand? Or were you walking down the hall and realized that you were not hanging right. Boy am I glad that you found them. Seriously, I know what you mean. There is a good book that I would recommend that FIB told me about "Hold onto you N.U.T.S." by Wayne Levine, add this to your to read list.
This is the one gift my W has given through all of this mess, Me. I found myself again. Sure I am a bit older, hopefully wiser, I nolonger have the opportunity to turn a fastball around, but, I am taking time out for myself. And you know what I am still a great Daddy and could still be a great husband to my W if she would let me in.
Since she won't share her hopes and dreams with me nolonger and won't be vulnerable with me anylonger, it is her loss(Yes, FIB I to have heard this). Sure I would prefer that my family stay intact and prefer to stay married to my W, but, I know that I will be fine on my own. I can honestly say that I am more then comfortable with me. Not to toot my own horn but I am a great guy and it is my W's loss.
Unfortunately because of my W's decisions my girls are going to have to be raised in a broken home. But, I still have the responsibility of making sure that they feeled loved and are secure. I am and will continue to do just that.
