I I have changed my name

[Iamworththetime]

Yeah I know, I come here to say things that I will not say to her, around her I'm upbeat and positive.

[cliffy]

Just getting caught up on your thread, sounds like you have your sh@t together for the most part. Your w certainly sounds like she is running on emotion, unfortunately she has to be the one to take stock. I think your course of action will give her the opportunity for this.
If it were me, I might lovingly mention your concerns about the job. By all means no criticism.
Crazy how we must let go of the things we love in hopes of getting them back, but so true.
Also, stepping down from the big truck has to be tough. Thanks for the advice on the dodge, hadn't heard it before. I am actually looking to get a bigger truck, maybe something unconsciously about manhood. :)lol Oh, thats right I need more pulling power.

[Iamworththetime]

Well, here I am at my house for what I guess may be the last time I'm here for awhile, gathering up my clothes and whatnots. I am very sad because it needn't have come to this, but this is what she wants and needs to be happy I guess. I worry about my oldest daughter, she's going to come home form Grandmas next wekend to find that daddy doesn't live with her anymore.

[Nomopo]

So sorry Dustin. Hang in there.

[Iamworththetime]

My brother and went out to eat tonight, he tells me that his soon to be ex (the one my W went to see in SA) told him that she feels that my W is going to get in trouble, I guess she is talking about whatever way my W acted when they went out. I feel that my W is going to hit rock bottom in the near future, the question is. Will it be in time for me to still want to work this out? I don't know.

[Heimlich]

Sorry, Dustin, but you seem to be hanging in there pretty good. Sounds like you've got a fair bit of patience, odds are you'll be around to pick up the pieces.

Just wondering, because I don't think anyone brought it up, but your wife might be a little depressed. Oversleeping for work sounds like something unusual for her. Not wishing for anyone to be depressed, but if she is, might be a sign that she's regretting the way things are going. Anyway, just a thought.

BD

[Iamworththetime]

She has mentioned before that she thinks she's depressed, one of the things my attny asked me was if I'd be willing to pay for a private couselor for, and I will if she agrees.

[ItsKat]

It is so hard to see our spouses take their lives in such a downward spiral, isn't it? I see my H doing the same thing, and I wish I could help him, but there is not much I can do for him. I guess we just have to hope that they hit rock bottom and start coming back up before too much damage is done to themselves, us, their families, relationships, careers, etc. It's frustrating.

[Iamworththetime]

Yes, it is very frustrating. This is a fairly small town, about 60,000 people. I fear what my W may do to her reputation, because here, when you go out you see the same people over and over and you'd be surprised how many people know the same people you do.

[Iamworththetime]

I've come to the conclusion that I need to "go dark", I won't contact my wife unless she contacts me and then I will wait awhile before contacting her back. I'm kind of irritated with er right now anyway, she has not even tried to call my oldest daughter while she is staying at her Grandmas, and my oldest keeps asking me why mama hasn't called her. I was always one to call my W a few times a day just to chit chat, so I hope this will be effective. Anyone have any thoughts on this?