Just wanted to say hello to everyone here and to offer some encouragement.
Try to remember that God loves you and knows your suffering. He is with us when we are the farthest away from Him.
I had sinus surgery a couple of weeks ago and my husband didn't call until the next day. He simply can't deal with reality (he is alcoholic and deeply immersed in sin and avoidance). It hurt so much that he didn't care, until I made myself think of how empty his life is.
Doing things so wrong day in and day out doesn't make for a very peaceful life - even for those who have sociopathic tendencies. Abandoning your family - in our case not just me but our adult sons and grandchildren is unnatural. Some part of him must hurt all the time.
For all of you who are in misery at the rejection of your beloved spouse and having to watch and feel the pain of your children at the hands of their father (parent) - pray and keep active. When it gets too bad, know it will pass by until the next time. God always rescues us when we feel ready to let go.
We are often considered too far into this to be still mourning what our spouses have done - whether it's a few months or six years as with me. But we know what our hearts are going through and just have to brave it out in front of most people. If you can find a safe person to listen, it helps so much. I have a sister like that.
Plus we do heal and - not move on (dislike that term) but move with life. We can find joy and peace by following what God guides us towards - by obeying His will for us.
It's very, very tough to do the right thing by everyone...your family, society and yourself. But you can do it if I can - not perfectly but with great effort and by offering up your suffering to the Lord.
God bless each and every one of you. I miss being here.
