I was controlling and not supportive. She was repressed and typical walk away wife.
I was fair in the divorce, but she is not going to live the lifestyle she wants.
In the mean time, I GAL'ed. I would see her and tell her that she can come home any time.
I have suggested going out to see if we can rekindled something and she says no.
Does anybody have any advice? Being with her sucks.
It is full of anxiety because I want to shake her up and bring her back to reality.
I am not an expert, and I don't think I've read your stuff before, so this is just based on what is here: You were controlling. So I see this: It is full of anxiety because I want to shake her up and bring her back to reality. I have suggested going out to see if we can rekindled something and she says no. I would see her and tell her that she can come home any time. I think to her, all of that feels controlling. It sounds that way to me. There is also the pursuing. I don't think you are crazy, but I do think you've got some more work to do on your perception of things before anything is going to change.
If she isn't going to be able to live her desired lifestyle, you've got to get out of the way and let it happen. If she's going to lose the kids, you need to be ready to catch them. If she can't pay her bills, the consequences have to fall on her. Until then, in my very unexpert opinion, you need to get out of the way as much as possible, and let it happen. The way I read this, you are still trying to control her. I'd like to be wrong!
Jeff
By the way, I'm sorry if this wasn't the encouragement you asked for!
