Several calls tonight, mainly to chat to the children, but also to W. Txtd her this morning to say I missed all 3 (not sure if it was wise, but she did meantion it). Counselling in 2 weeks time, so will see if we are forward or not. Might broach subject of OP at that, along the lines of 'together we can work this out and move forward, but not with OP in tow'.
Suggestions on whether this would be a bright idea would be gratefully received.