Okay, so I have a question...can someone be too nice?
I guess so..... I to get the samething from Co-workers, my W's friends, neighbors, you name it. They typically say something like: "Scott you are one of the nicest guys that I know, I cannot believe what XXXX is doing and saying to you."
I have also read some places that woman don't like nice guys because they are not a challenge and so they get bored. I actually just read a book about not being a nice guy and becoming a good guy. One of its main points was nice guys are too passive, just agree with everyone, not vulnerable, not willing to take risks, where is the intamacy in that. Some of the points the book made fit me, a lot did not.
Maybe that is what happened, maybe they got bored because we were to nice. Though from what I read that doesn't seem to fit.......you are intelligent, moral, compassionette and walk around in a bikini. I think your H went nuts, that makes more sense to me.
As for me maybe I should not spoil my next W. Massages, pedicures, support of her goals, time for herself, time for her friends, support for her career.... Maybe I need to through that out the window and turn into a jackass myself.... I have to say that I do not like the way that sounds.
That is funny about the OW. Are you kidding me hiding her in a bar. Heck hiding her anywhere. If she were worth a damn then why hide her. I am scratching my head about this one. I'm sorry but it sounds like your H is going to be miserable with her in the long run...
