The Final Chapter

[bambam1970]

Well, I met with my attorney today. He is filing everything tomorrow. This is the final chapter for me in the journey of my marriage. I am ready.

Things went well, I think. I must begin the process of getting together our assets. H has to figure out about his life insurance policies through work and get the statement for his pension.

When I talked to him yesterday and explained that the child support would be taken from his paycheck, he didn't seem to know that.

So, today he asked me how it went and I told him about splitting all of the assets equally etc. He said that he talked to one of his co-workers last night (who went through a divorce a few years ago and is pretty much an idiot anyway) and said that we could decide whatever we wanted and the courts would accept it. In other words, I could let the judge know that I didn't want support while he was still paying the house payment and vechicle payments. I am fine w/using the support money to help cover expenses until this house sells. His attitude appeared to be like he felt I was trying to get as much out of him as possible. He wasn't nasty, just almost defensive and ready for a fight.

I explained that the courts didn't give a sh** who pays the mortgage etc as long as it's paid. So, when I start getting the support from him, I will use it to pay some expenses until the house sells. But, I am going to insist that the support starts when the D is finalized b/c I don't want to have to re-do anything after the house sells.

I suggested he get his own attorney and not get legal advice from a co-worker. He thinks this will be fine as long as we agree.

So, I'm tired. I'm more than ready to move forward with this. I need to get out from under the stress of his dead weight. Does that make any sense?