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how am I supposed to turn him away? ...If I give him what he seeks, he will resent me later


yup. i think someone recently posted some link on breaking out of codependancy.. sorry dont remember the thread, but sounds like it may have some relevance.

But basically... well.. how DO you plan to deal with children who need to learn to grow up?

Keep showing them love... but also help and encourage them to solve their own problems at the same time? and also to encourage and help them to take responsability for their own actions and choices?

Transition from a parent/child relationship, to a partner/partner relationship.. and after the teenage years are over, hopefully he'll respect and love you more for it ;\)


I think he wants this too.. he just doesnt know how to get there, or even fully realize that is what he needs.


Last edited by Dom R; 07/30/07 10:52 PM.
My current status: june 2006. Wife ran out and filed D.
Finalized Jan 11, 2010, after 12.5 years M.
3 wonderful sons caught in the middle