GD's Dilemma, 4

[Nomopo]

You always make me back up what I say. Can't you just accept it???

Nomo,

This may sound crazy, but I think this may be good for you. You showed her a lot of the new you!!

I agree with you on this, but it is just the timing of it that I feel is bad.

I think the timing is fine, especially if you wait until maybe the weekend for the talk.

So maybe you should have checked with her first. Learn from it, but I doubt that was what the call was all about. I think she is conflicted, at least a little.

So what exactly do you think the call was about? Seems like a good enough reason to call. Also, what do you mean by you "think she is conflicted?" Sometimes (actually oftentimes) I need these things spelled out for me.

Oh, it was a good enough reason to call, and the call was definitely about what she said, but IMO not entirely. All I was getting at/guessing at was along the lines of what Sunny said - W seems a little shaken/unsure of herself. I think you have successfully planted a seed of doubt.

Maybe she was a little disappointed in you. To the point of crying. But that just means she cares. And that is GREAT!

Can you get her a little gift (kind of like my cheerleading trinket) with a little note. Might drive home how sincerely bad you feel, and how different this new person is. Maybe a little teeny tiny phone (a charm?)

I really like this idea (I need to begin thinking symbolically -- these ideas are great!). I'm thinking maybe a charm, keychain accessory, etc. Maybe attach it to a small, cute piece of stationary that says something like, "Just want tell you how sorry I am that I didn't call you about the trip. This is to let you know I won't forget next time (or the next, or the next, etc)." What do you think?

I like it. You going to try to work a phone into it? I really like the phone thing, if I do say so myself.

Hell, this sort of gives you an opening to have the last stand talk I think. When is that planned for? Where's the lastest outline/draft?

Not sure how it give me an opening for the talk, but I can see how it may improve my chances like you said.

I just meant that if she thinks about why she was so bothered she may start to realize she isn't over you yet.

Can you tell me if there is more than one Marriot in Orlando, and if so, which one you're staying at? I haven't booked my room yet, but I will once I hear from you about the hotel sitch. If you want to email info to me, it's [e-mail]

Let's talk offline about this. I sent you an email.

Later,
Nomo

PS - Back at home with my kids tonight!!! (So less posting time.)