Perhaps thi s is a good message for all posters.

Do not get emotionally or romantically involved with people who are in the same boat as you are, especially here on the DBboard. Do not get caught up in the nonsense that this time it will be different or that you have learned from your Marriage how to love this new person. You haven't.
Even after the Divorce is final, there is still a grieving and a sadness. Until your marrige is absolutely final and you have had time to sort yourself out do not get caught up in another romantic relationship.