I hear you mkultra! I have never hated someone before and I do now. Which makes me feel awful but I really would not care if she died - in fact I would smile. I know that is terrible but it is how I feel. The worst for me is she is separated several yrs now and her H did this to her with online porn and with affairs. So now it is OK for her to do it to another woman. I understand attraction and how she could have started talking to my H but once she found out he was M, it should have been hands off! Obviously commitment, integrity and honor are not virtues and I find it so hard my H would have anything to do with someone like that.