changes in attitudes, changes in latitudes

[new_attitude]

OK, I've worn them out at the park and I just put in Toy Story 2, so I have a couple of minutes.

I love that movie! S7 was really into Toy STory when he was your s' age. Thanks for keeping up with me.

Yes, you should definitely go ahead and take the kids to your parents. If you want you could tell them that H had to work or had other plans, but you might want to consider just telling your parents what is going on. I know that I waited a long time before telling my parents, now I think I waited too long. I am not sure what your reasons are for not wanting to tell them, but some of them may be the same reasons I had--- didn't want to upset them, didn't want them to think badly of H, didn't want them to get involved in a way that wouldn't help.

Yes, those are all reasons that I don't want to tell them, but there's one more. My dad and H had a falling out a couple of years ago over a minor misunderstanding, and I sense that my dad, who can hold a grudge forever, never really got over it (although he said he had). I don't want to give him any more ammo to use against H. If I were closer to my parents, I might feel differently, but we don't have the kind of relationship where we can talk about everything and anything. I just don't want them to be involved at this point.

I know that an S is not what you want, but I will tell you that the alone time you get when H has the kids is pretty nice. I was thinking the other day, how I don't have that issue of resenting H because I didn't get any time alone, because now I have just the right amt. of alone time. Now would I rather have my marriage intact then have alone time? Of course! But now I am seeing how important it is to have time to myself and I am going to make it more of a priority in my next R (either w/ H or someone else).

That's definitely a good way to look at it. H and I were more likely to give each other alone time, but we didn't do enough "us time." I think that was one of our major problems.

Sorry about the crazy morning. That sounds all too familiar.

Thanks! I hope dinner time is better!