My marriage is hopeless V

[25yearsmlc]

Scott,

Just checking in on your sitch. Ummmmm, oh yeah....IT SUCKS!

I have to catch but just say two things. Yes, you are one of the men I think of, as I posted on FIB's thread, which I thinked I locked, but on a positive note!

Second, you are brilliant to keep ALL the legal dirty "unpleasant reality" the job for the lawyers. It IS what you pay us for (actually not me, I won't ever do a divorce again and there is no such thing as an "amiable one"--what would that look like anyhow? I guess if both partners awoke one day to realize they each had no sex drive, or were both gay....hmmmm, gee, that IS an important question....)

Let her and the L's do their stuff and btw, how'd the custody go 40% your way? If it's a legitmate schedule diff, fine. But isn't she a nurse with weird hours/ and is she the one who is "in love" with the ER doctor?

In law school I had a really smart RN married to a slightly older orthopedic surgeon. She had some bucks and dressed well, and was really funny. When she M the good doctor, she gave up on having kids since he had been zapped. She helped me shop for lawyer clothes when i graduated and I mentioned something about my own h going to med school. She basically warned me big time, with NO NO NO, etc....and told me that she had Not been there with her h, since she was the 2nd wife and missed all the "fun stuff, like med school and internship, etc." Since she was my friend in all other ways, I just filed that fact away in my mind. Later she said, if she had known what M to him was really going to be like, and I think the unfairness of it all, she would Not have married him AND that she had a new found respect for his ex. She also said SHE made sure the alimony checks got sent on time....weird, huh?

Your wife's concerns about money are telling. She thought the ER doc had SO MUCH money, what's a few child support payments? Hmmmmmm, too bad.

Glad you don't mind the CS checks and even though we all know it also "benefits" the WAS the thing is we get trivial complaining too much. I mean, if they're in a 3 BR house it does cost more to light it up and heat it, so yeah, I guess the ex also "benefits" but there isn't much choice. Besides, hate to go all femi-nazi on you, but did you know that 3/4 of men don't pay the amount they're ordered to pay?


Nonetheless, you raise a very intriguing point. You ARE paying b/c you see your kids less....that does indeed suck. Why the 60/40? Geez, if I ever felt like going back to divorce law, oooooh, groooossss, I don't think I can....BUT IF I DID, I'd like to represent a few guys with MLC and or cheating wives just to get to talk without them interupting. Gotta be worth something. OH let me toot my horn, b/c I did meet one couple who asked me to do their Div together b/c they were just sooooo amiable. That means the man was crushed but honorable and she wanted out, fyi. SO, I get to talk to them separately and I get to talk to her a whole hour.....last I heard they weren't getting a divorce and the soldier ran into my office on his way to Iraq and thanked me for saving his M and said, "I don't know what you said but she says she'll go to counselling and she loves me again..." Since I know that's a rare event, I'll just savor it and not hope for more.....oh btw, I reamed her about what a great guy she was losing and how stupid and obvious she was and sooooo cliched. Then I told her my predictions about her 10 years from now....hmmm, guess something clicked in her hormone raddled brain, plus the fact that in the Army, attractive women get lots of attention so when their men are deployed, they can
sometimes forget their values and act like bimbos who never got noticed before.

BACK TO EARTH, how is the A going with the OM as far as you know? Does your wife know now that since the RICH DOCTOR (aren't they ALL rich and fllled with spare time for romance?) isn't all that rich, and or all that free with his time, that all might not be well in paradise?

By keeping the dirty work to the lawyers, you can hold your head high. Who knows? If the road home is paved and smooth, you might get a returning wife. Other than money stuff, has she noticed your GAL and changes? Keep them up. Hold your head high. I hate women who marry docs they didn't put through med school. Boy let me tell you, when the wives sit around talking about how hard internship and residency was....and your wife peeps up about meeting him AT WORK and confirms every doctor's First wife's fears.....she'll be as welcome as a pregnant nun...
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