Newbie ? How public was your spouse's affair?

[Hope_11]

My H's affair is very public. Not in the sense that he's been out in public with OW, but that everyone knows. He did everything wrong and acted so crazy, so it didn't take long for the gossip to spread. The good part of my sitch is that he moved 3 hours away to be with OW, so I don't have to deal with them...the bad part is he left me here to explain this while he is off living in la la land. I do feel humiliated, but everyone reassures me that they don't think of me any different. I believe that in my heart, but I still feel like people will look at me and wonder what's wrong with me.

I think that it actually helps me that my H is so crazy. When I go out, I always make sure I look great...better than I did when I was with H. I am thin, tall, and blond. It's hard to look at me and comprehend that my H left me for OW. They say the best revenge is a life well-lived. I go for the "what the hell is wrong with my H" look...that way, the better I look..the crazier he looks and I don't have to say a word.

I know you probably feel like you are the only one going through this, but you aren't alone. Hold your head high...you weren't unfaithful. It takes a strong person to come out on the other side a better person...at the very least that's what we are all striving for. This happens to the best of us. You will get through this. Never turn into someone that you don't want to be around. My H did that and his only family doesn't want to be around him. Take care.